A Gold Star Family Is More Than Family

Gold Star Mother (GSM), Mellissa Sandvick, became a GSM on Oct. 8, 2006, when her son, LCpl. Jeremy Sandvick-Monroe, died from wounds sustained while conducting combat operations against enemy forces, in Anbar, Iraq. Mellissa is the sole GSM in Phillips County.

The last Sunday in September each year is designated as Gold Star Mother Recognition Day. Mellissa was asked how she wanted to observe the day, her choice was with friends and family with treats at the local DQ.

Sunday, Mellissa was joined by those in her life. Past Commander of the VFW, Jim Layton, gave a talk about the importance of mothers in our lives. Mothers are our support system and play a role in our lives that no one else can fill. Mellissa shared her thoughts on the day, what an honor it is – in that the Gold Star Mothers – though they share a bond, would rather have had their son or daughter come home. At least they are not forgotten, since WWll when the Gold Star Mother and Gold Star Family recognition started.

Mellissa's twin children, Darryl and Jordanne Southwick share a history of not only military family, they share Gold Star history. Paul Southwick is the son of Jay and Marda, and the father of the twins. Jay's grandmother, Rosine Holmquist became a Gold Star Mother with the death of her son, Willard, in France in 1944. Darryl and Jordanne are the great-great-grandchildren of Rosine. Rosine's mother, Rosa Wheeler, was also a Gold Star Mother; they are her great-great-great grandchildren. Her son, Frank, died in 1945 in Holland during WWll.

While it is a title no one ever wants, at least it isn't something that is overlooked or forgotten. The years tick away as if timeless, yet, if asked, every Gold Star Mother could tell you the hour of the day, day of the week, and year when they became a GSM. If you're so inclined, pull up a song on the internet by the Statler Brothers, "More Than a Name on the Wall." It will leave you with a better understanding of what some of the families of our military have faced.

It will more than likely make you a little more appreciative of the true meaning of the colors...red, white, and blue. It will be a gentle reminder of the true value, importance, cost, and the price paid when a family is handed a folded flag.

Thank you, Mellissa, for choosing to share your day with us.